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Unconditional Love

Dear Vinepire,

One of the reasons the vampire is such a versatile symbol is, in my mind, its connection to family life. And please don´t worry about my childhood here! I will explain.

So when we think of vampire romance, it gets easy to get the kinds of love involved all tangled up and get confused. See, if you had to move to Forks and get involved with the hottest guy in town, who also just so happens to have the urge to jump to your throat, it is likely you believe your love for that sparkling creature to be unconditional. Bella loves Edward despite who he is, but that is far from unconditional devotion. See, if he stopped behaving like a gentleman from another century and treated her even more badly than she already lets him, if he showed cruelty towards her family, she would (hopefully) not feel that way anymore.

Now look at her father. Despite having been a responsible parent, he got cut out of her life because she could not stand the weather in this part of the country. He forgave her the moment she needed a place to stay, and since, tolerated patiently her dependent and risky behaviour. He supported her during her break down, and went as far as tolerating the presence of the vampire who left his daughter in that state, just because it made her cheer again. He loves her despite the way she treats him (and she went as far as reenacting her parent´s break up), because of whom she is : his child. If she were the kid next door, he would not care, because he loves her conditionally.

Now look at the families around you. Parents love their children no matter what they were to do, but what about the partner? They do not love each other because they are in this union, but because of the kindness, generosity and respect they showed each other in the good and the bad times. They love conditionally in each case. So why does the first kind of love we ever experience seem so superior, more reassuring and giving than a steamy romance? Maybe, because we did never have to actively earn our family´s affection, it was enough to be born. In addition, we can be sure that we will be loved until the end of time, no matter what lifepath we choose. I loke to think of this as a gift, and of the love of our romantic partners and friends as a reward. We got the frist, because it gave people happiness to make us happy, and the second, because we have made others feel this way.

While I see both of those loves as necessary and am thankful for their presence, I can´t help but feel like there would be more joy in relationships if we were more open to give presents to, rather than award our loved ones…

Thank you so much for reading,

Your Vine Vampire

PS : What do you think about these kinds of love?


2 thoughts on “Unconditional Love

  1. You did a great job explaining the two types of love. Amazing reference to the books and being able to go deeper into them about their types of love. I agree with you, that a parents love to a child is unconditional, that there is nothing a kid could do that would stop that love (in most cases). However, I do disagree with you about a love towards a partner. I have seen many marriages/friendships that are unconditional. That there is nothing could break that bond. It does exist on that side, it is just a lot harder to find and cultivate.

    • Thanks so much! I actually did not think about Twilight that way until I watched “Interview with the Vampire”, where a vampire child gets adopted.
      Yes, I am glad that you pointed out that tere are some cases in which one could expect parents to stop loving a child, but I think that one would be surprised at all the situations in which the love prevails (even if there is deep resentment of the kid´s actions).
      I hear you on the other part as well, and I guess that yould be the definition of true love. In fact, I would like to explore it a little deeper, maybe I´ll write about that again, but I must find some resources on the subject 😉
      Again, thanks so much for taking the time to read ❤

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